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my friend thinks my boyfriend doesn’t love me because he doesn’t buy me gifts…?
so one of my girlfriends thinks my boyfriend (who i have been seeing for 8 months) doesn’t love me because he doesn’t buy me stuff (except ofcourse when it’s my birthday/christmas, then he does) “just because”. i would like some other advice on this – preferably from guy – just to have a third opinion =)
he does do stuff like take me out to dinner, drive me home after every date (he pays his own gas-money), calls me everyday, is affectionate, …
so what do you guys think?
ps: my friend is driving me nuts =P
oh and ofcourse i disagree with her by the way =)
i think he really does love me, but i just want her to stop nagging =D
Don’t listen to your friend. She’s the one who’s nuts.
Your boyfriend sounds great. He isn’t obligated to buy you anything, so the fact that he does get you things for the holidays and special days shows how considerate and caring he is. Your relationship with him isn’t about material things anyway, is it? You sound like a very realistic and sensible girl. It sounds like you value him for the person he is and not what he can buy you. That’s great! A lot of people forget what’s important in relationships these days. It’s not about the gifts. You’re boyfriend remembers special days, takes you out, drives you home and makes sure you’re safe and shows you how he feels through his actions. He sounds like a great guy and you’re very lucky. I think he’s lucky to have you too. You seem very level headed and I admire that.
As for your friend, she needs to be quiet. There is a possibility that she’s jealous in some way. Either she’s jealous of how your boyfriend treats you or she’s jealous that your boyfriend takes up your time more than she likes. If it’s none of these things, then your friend, I’m sorry to say, is pretty shallow and materialistic…and maybe a little bit of a diva. You could try explaining all of this stuff to her, maybe pointing out that you don’t need a lot of presents to be happy with him, that you are happier that he spends his time with you and treats you well. It also may be that your boyfriend doesn’t have a lot of money left over after he gets done paying for his stuff and spending money on a car, maybe insurance, taking you out and whatever else comes up. Maybe if you tell your friend this, she might understand. If she doesn’t, it might be time to put distance between you and your friend until she can grow up a bit. Material things aren’t everything. How people value and treasure you is.
Good luck.
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